Thursday, July 28, 2016

Summer Advances

"The days are long and the years are short," and here we are.
Jackson crossed the stage with the same kids he started pre-school with, his graduation party was a huge success and he attended celebrations for several of his classmates.  It's almost August; many of his classmates are preparing for college life.  It's appropriate for me to pause, and reflect on all he has accomplished this summer; mostly to remind myself his journey continues, but also to encourage others walking a similar path.

Graduation happened.  It was REAL.  He  crossed the stage, he turned his tassel, he even posed for pictures.  He happily signed his name to over 20 cards and personally delivered them to classmates at parties.  In most cases, that was all he wanted to do, but he did it.  I could go on and on about the group of kids he was blessed to grow up with...the fact that he was invited to over 20 parties gives an indication of the character of these young people.   We wish them all well.

This summer has held accomplishments unexpected...Jackson asked to help paint the laundry room.  Though his help slowed the process, together we painted that room and the paint that dripped on the trim or floor is a reminder to me that Jackson did his part.   He also helped shovel landscape rocks, install trim, and attempted to mow the lawn.  Thanks to Pokémon Go, he has taken the dog on walks and willingly gone on bike rides. :)

His weekly outings with a helper have built financial skills.  He knows denominations, is able to give correct amounts and is learning to check his change for accuracy.  These outings are also helping him make decisions about how he wants to spend his money and to understand that there are limits to what he can afford.  We are very grateful for the care and commitment of his helper.

Today, he went to a new dentist.  Jackson hates the dentist.  I hate the dentist. Who likes to go to the dentist?  Well, I gave him minimal warning that we were seeing a new dentist.  I know that too much warning makes him obsess and that isn't ever good.  Together, we walked into the new dentists office (he has seen a pediatric dentist since he was 7, at nearly 19 it was time to explore our options for an adult dentist).  I held my breath as I completed the paperwork and we waited his turn.  Lisa, the hygienist called him back and invited me to come along...as we got to the exam room I asked Jack if he wanted me to stay with him.  He said yes, and I sat on the edge of my chair watching my grown baby cooperate and handle a cleaning.  I kept waiting for him to lose it, he never did.  It was the first time he had his teeth polished.  Maybe next time, he will try an x-ray...

This post is all about triumph.  Things that seem impossible can be accomplished.  When you believe you've hit a plateau, press on.  If you feel like your child won't; hold onto hope...someday he will.  Jackson has taught me, when you least expect it, in a way you never imagined, autism loses and life wins.